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'How to Get Your Mojo Back' from Women's Leadership Author, Speaker and Consultant Selena Rezvani

How to Get Your Mojo Back

[ Tuesday, Aug 23, 2011 ]

We’ve all had those days when it feels like we’re just going through the motions. Our magic is missing. Our sparkle is lost. Our “get up and go” has gotten up and gone .

If you’ve personally been there, you know the experience of having little interest or ambition is quite the opposite of being in the flow.

When we’re lucky enough to have mojo, there’s usually an overlap occurring between the experiences of happiness, meaning and competence. When we’re in that sweet spot, our mojo tends to multiply itself; we’re energized, “in it,” and the good ideas keep flowing.

What’s more, mojo is often tied to emotions like pride in a job done well, endurance at sticking with something, satisfaction or a feeling of contributing to something greater than ourselves.

If you found you’ve lost your way and want to find your hustle again, not to worry. Consider these points and at the very least, you will put your finger on how you got where you are:

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but in the span of your career, you will most certainly have periods of disengagement, disillusionment–even doubts about whether you’re in the right line of work. Mind you, these feelings can last for a day, a month or a year. The key is to realize that finding fulfillment and engagement is an ongoing job.

Much like your palette and discerning whether or not you enjoy a food, with every new work experience you “taste” new things, deciding whether you like them, all the while expanding your repertoire and broadening your knowledge.

You are bound to experience like and dislikes, to be turned on or turned off by what you try. Don’t be surprised when you’re occasionally left uninspired and don’t turn it into self blame.

Try to understand when your mojo went away. For some, there’s a certain event which a person can trace their decline back to. For others, disengagement settles over them like a slow fog.

Think back to when you were last invigorated and consider what was going on. How were you spending your time? What was your main focus? Following that period, what happened to leave you feeling less than enthused? Was it a bruising interaction, a painful self-perception, or a public setback of some kind? You can’t effectively maneuver in a new direction if you don’t know where you’ve come from.

Don’t underestimate the power of your network to fuel your fire. Actively seek out those people who enjoy what they do, feel productive, or are otherwise working day by day at a change. You’ll be amazed how inspired friends and colleagues can lift your mindset. Let them talk about the high’s and low’s of their own journey and it’ll help you stop fixating on your own path.

Join networking groups you’ve been considering being part of, find inspiration in other women, or just reach out to those who know you.  And while you have their ear….

So much of our mojo is highly personal and individualistic. If you’re having trouble making sense of the point you’ve reached, schedule a session with a family member, friend or colleague. Explain that you’re feeling stuck and that you’d love their input. By taking the “inside job” of unearthing what’s swirling around inside and making it into a two-way dialogue, you’ll find that you work out past upsets and reach new conclusions.

You might even ask your peer coach straight out, “Based on what you’ve heard/know, where do you think I’m holding myself back?”

It’s hard to have mojo when you feel lost. It’s also hard to move forward if you’re plain stuck on what used to be. But the hard truth is, that was then and this is now. Embrace and learn from your feelings of disengagement and you can nurture them into something better than you had before.